Why I did what I did

Tsk tsk,I should have explain the full story further....Clover is left at the babysitter at the most twice a week,this allows me the freedom to take a breather,as well as the opportunity for clover to get used to being with others around,since I have to go back to work in two months time.I am on unpaid leave,not quit my full time job to be a SAHM.Though dec is normally school holidays,it is the time for teachers to arrange meetings,plan work assignments,discuss budgets etc.In short,it is work for the teachers,holidays for the kids,haha...

Stranger anxiety which normally starts around this month,tends to make baby cautious of strangers,new environment,though it differs from baby to baby ,it helps to give clover some time to settle in,as well as a chance for me to observe if she is comfortable,and whether babysitter can cope....I do not fancy the idea of thrusting my baby into the arms of stranger only at the last minute,besides,reliable babysitter is not easy to find,some may be out to earn a quick buck...Hence,if this babysitter is not suitable,I have to find time to do my search again...sigh..Thank goodness,clover is adapting well so far from the two visits,babysitter is also caring and will "report"the amount of milk drank,how long her nap was,her behaviour in great detail...haha...

Well,anonymous,we are not rich,though I hope we are...haha...As I said,the second job is borne out of passion,it allows him to earn more income,who will say no to more money ,when the opportunity presents itself?haha....But being human,and as a woman,it is hard not to be vain alittle,I do love to indulge in a facial now and then,or shopping for new clothes without baby around....Having a baby does not mean I have to be a typical "huang lian po",isnt it?It is good to update a new wardrobe once in a while,but leaving my lao gong or grandparents to look after the baby is not an option in my case,hence babysitter is by far,in my opinion the best choice....Care to sign your name?I always like to see names being signed off even though I do not know you personally,but it gives me a feeling that you are "real" and not just a cyberperson...haha...

Furthermore,it also allows my lao gong and I to date once in a while,just like "back in the days we were dating" without baby around....it is sad to see couples whom after having baby,their lives centre only around kids,school and nothing else,I have seen such couples filing for divorce,(especially more so if a more loving and much more understanding "third party" enters the picture),and the typical reason is "she/he do not understand me anymore,we always quarrel all the time",life is work and kids,seems dramatic to you readers,but such is harsh reality,especially after children comes into the picture...The partner feels no longer valued but more of a mummy or breadwinner...and well,I believe in not neglecting my lao gong for who we once were,and yet embracing the baby to make us a family unit...hehe...Working in sales,schools,it is interesting as it enables me the opportunity to observe the interaction between couples,kids vs parents etc...and knowing some of them personally make me want to avoid the pitfall ,hopefully,touchwood,it does not happen to us...haha....