Different personalitites can affect our parenting styles,our own family upbringing,our beliefs all come into play...yet having said that,I still think that it is important for the child to be disciplined when need be,for the parents to come to a joint decision on the punishments/rewards...in my work,nothing frustrate me than seeing how lax one partner can be,while the other simply lash out,or worst,the child is like a tennis ball being tossed from one parent to the other saying,"Im not free now,you tell my XXX,he/she will handle ,not me" Sad but this is the reality of life,when parents are too tired,too stressed in making ends meet,how the child misbehave somewhat appear trivial and pale in comparison to the problems they are facing....
I consider myself very lucky indeed that my lao gong and I believe in equal partnership,clover has to learn to put away her toys,her shoes after a walk...While she used to hurling her toys,books,or anything she laid her hands on,that has become much less frequent now,we follow the "one strike and u're out"rule,whenever clover threw something forbidden,she will be given a firm warning,do it again,and the toy will be confiscated...Instead she is given ball as a replacement for throwing...No exceptions from both of us,the little one picked up fast,haha...Whenever she has shown good behaviour,she will be rewarded with her favourite DVD or a short walk,which provide us with immense pleasure,haha...So ,maybe shes not the boss afterall,huh?haha....No doubt it takes lots of time,efforts and patience,so much so that I nearly want to give up at times,it is always easier to give a smack and shut her up,haha...But I realise that it gets easier once boundary(rules)are set,discipline begins even now...haha...
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